I am 20 years old, my boyfriend is 21 years old, we have been in a relationship for almost three years. We broke up in the middle, and I took the initiative to get him back, but I can clearly feel that he does not love me, and he has admitted that he wants to separate. Recently, he especially want to have sex, said he because of the previous masturbation too much lead to premature ejaculation, need me to help him recover. But I don't want to do it and I don't want to use any birth control, I want to save my first time for after we get married. He thinks that sex makes the relationship more intimate and says he's waited a long time and doesn't want to wait a few more years, and that he can't control his desires with me around. He doesn't want to push himself and is afraid it will cause him physical problems, so he chose to respect me and break up. Please, is there any way to resolve this without having sex?
Hello building owner! When you're young and in a relationship it's inevitable that you will have the urge to be intimate, which is actually quite normal.
The reason for your reluctance may be an instinctive self-preservation. You know very well in your heart that your boyfriend probably doesn't really like you, maybe he just wants to have sex, and you're worried that if it happens, he won't marry you and feel like you're losing out. So you want to use this to hold him back and make him marry you.
But you're trying to get on top of him and want him to give you a long term commitment, but he's not even willing to take the time right now, he just wants a short term relationship.
There's nothing else you can do to keep the relationship.
Suggest you:
First, let go of the relationship. As much as you want to get high, it's hard for you guys to go all the way.
Second, if you insist on saving your first time for marriage, hold your ground and go find someone who respects you, is patient, and is willing to give you a long-term commitment.
It's just that you have to accept that maybe the other person is not as well endowed as he is.
Thirdly, it doesn't really matter whether the first time is after marriage or not, the key is to be with people who like each other and enjoy real pleasure, willingly, not forced or reluctantly.
May you love yourself and meet the right person to love you!
