Happiness always comes and goes quickly, your heart is empty and you feel that life is meaningless?
I feel that happiness is especially short-lived, like a gust of wind, it comes and goes, and cannot be retained at all. I may be happy just now, but in the blink of an eye, I will be in a low mood. Those past happiness can only rely on memories, but the heart is still empty, life seems to have no flavor, always can not help but think back to the good old days. But the memories are still the past and will never come back, and to be honest, the past is not all good.
Hello, first of all, I'd like to give you a warm hug, I can totally understand how you hold on to and value happy times, and I admire your clarity about the past. I'm Shuya Qingzheng, and today I'd like to talk with you about how you can become a happier person and a better version of yourself.
1, Accept all happiness and unhappiness
Yes, we often lament that those happy moments are just too short, or even gone in the blink of an eye.
There are some joys that disappear before we can savor them; time passes too quickly, and there are some truths that we don't have time to figure out before we realize that we have grown up and grown old.
In fact, happiness and worries are the same, they are temporary, they will come and go quietly. Just like the white clouds in the sky, sometimes they gather, sometimes they drift away.
Our brains are like this sky, which allows the clouds to float freely, or we can make the sky wider and hold more clouds.
Everyone experiences joys and sorrows, and that's what life is really like. How monotonous it would be if the world had only one color, without our favorite green, pink or red.
So, what do you think about trying to embrace some unhappiness to live a more colorful life and become stronger and more open inside?
2. Need help to grow
Martin Seligman, the founder of positive psychology, said, "Change what you can and accept what you can't for the best life."
You see, wanting to live a happier, more satisfying life requires us to adjust our mindset and perceptions.
It is human instinct to seek pleasure and avoid pain, and this is the most primitive part of our heart. But we also need another state of being, which is to give back to those people and societies that have brought us joy, love and helped us; this is our responsibility and the root of our lasting happiness.
We need to better integrate our pleasure-seeking instincts with our responsibility-taking superego to form a self that both loves and makes us happy.
You can talk to a counselor for quick inner strength, or you can slowly adjust and improve on your own to fill your heart with love and joy.
When you love yourself, the world will come to love you.
Reading and meditation practices are both particularly good habits and methods.
There are a lot of courses on personal growth and love on the platform, you can choose the ones you are interested in learning; you can also write down your happy or unhappy experiences and sort out your emotions in the storytelling section.
I'm sure these methods will help you get your head on straight, find what you want in life, and meet a better version of yourself.
The world and I love you, and I hope these tips help.
