It's really annoying to be faced with someone I love and hate, and I have absolutely no idea what to do about it.
However, he didn't dare to say the words completely, for fear of revealing too much of his feelings, in case he came back to pester him it would be even more troublesome, so he could only silently digest these emotions by himself.
But occasionally I still think about this person who I love to hate, and how on earth do I deal with that mood?
I really don't dare to take the initiative to contact him, because once the distance is drawn closer, the one who is trapped is definitely myself, although I don't want to contact him, but I just can't get over it. To put it simply, what I love may not be the complete him, but the two faces on him.
You know what? He's like two people.
One side is kind and considerate and the other side strikes me as somewhat negative.
I can't get together like in the novels, there's too much to think about in reality, so I don't dare to get too close to him, but I can't help but miss it myself.
Thinking about how good he's been to me, and even thinking that those negative displays of his might be because of my coldness, instead makes me think that he actually cares about me.
But this ambivalence really makes me struggle.
This kind of love and hate, left and right feeling is really very consuming energy. You have your own concerns, taking into account the reality of the situation do not want to easily fall into, that you are quite rational, is to protect themselves Oh.
In fact, everyone is a multi-faceted, you see his good and not so good two sides is normal. Will think of him, because you have feelings for him, those good memories naturally stay in the heart.
Perhaps you can try to put this feeling in a small corner of your heart first, not forcibly repressed, and not rushing to get closer or farther away. Every time you think of him, divert your attention to the life in front of you and do something that makes you happy, such as reading a favorite book or going out for a walk.
You can also make a list of his good points and the points that make you uncomfortable, calmly analyze, from a more objective point of view to see if this person is really suitable for you. As time passes, you may be able to slowly look away, or be more clear about whether you want to continue this relationship. You don't have to push yourself too hard right now, just allow your emotions to exist and take your time to adjust.
