My parents fought for years and finally went their separate ways.
Even when I got married, they started separately and ignored each other.
I spent almost the first half of my life arguing.
And having to deal with my mom's hot temper and my dad's cold attitude.
Add to that my dad's favoritism towards my stepmom and brother, and I feel even worse.
One time my face swelled up from menstrual cramps.
I complained to my boyfriend.
And he didn't react at all.
I said you don't even buy my medicine for me, instead he said you work in a hospital can't you buy it yourself? We ended up arguing.
After a while, he said his parents and relatives were suddenly coming over for a sit-down, but I had a terrible stomachache.
The house is a mess.
I had to tough it out and clean it up.
Otherwise he'll say I'm lazy and sloppy again.
In the evening he cooked me a bowl of ravioli and I was quite happy.
The next day I said I wanted to go shopping for some wedding jewelry.
He said can't you go by yourself? I disliked him back and said I'll do everything myself.
Why do you always send me to buy medicine for your weak sperm? When he has a weak stomach, I buy all the medicine.
And with that, we argued again.
He actually said that bad genes run in our family.
It also brought up the fact that my parents divorced because of faulty upbringing and other nasty things like that.
He's 37 years old, a junior executive from the countryside.
You have to carry your own mortgage on your house and car.
I stayed with him just so he could be nice to me.
I grew up with a nanny in the house and didn't suffer much.
I'm looking for an average guy, don't I just want someone to love me?
Why else would he be with me! Now I don't spend much money.
And a bunch of chores to worry about.
What he's become!
1. My parents fought for so many years and eventually divorced, and even when I got married they started separate businesses and didn't talk to each other. I spent all my youth fighting and had to deal with my mom's irritability, my dad's indifference, and his favoritism towards my stepbrother.
The first half of my family life was full of love, hate and bruises. 💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗
My parents never gave me a role model for healthy intimacy.
2. I complained about my menstrual cramps, but my boyfriend ignored me. I blamed him for not buying the medicine, but he said I should buy it myself because I work in a hospital, and we got into a fight.
Your communication style: always complaining and blaming
His communication style: cold and defensive
Doesn't this seem like the way your mom and dad used to get along?
3. He suddenly said that his family is coming, I still have to hold on to clean up the house even though I have a stomach ache, for fear of being called lazy. I was a little happier when he cooked ravioli in the evening.
To a man, you loving him by being nice to his family shows that you care about him and he understands how nice you are. 💞
4. The next day I wanted to buy jewelry, he let me go by myself, I broke out and said why he was weak to buy medicine always let me go! He was sick and I bought all the medication, and after a fight he attacked my family genes and divorced my parents.
Why can't we talk properly? It's because there are too many emotions and disappointments in your heart, and you have to settle old scores and new ones together... Can you tell what you're mad at your parents and what you're mad at your boyfriend? Maybe it's more about mom and dad?
5. He is 37 years old rural small supervisor, debt. I figure he's good to me, I've never been tired since I was a kid, and I'm looking for a poor condition just to have someone to love. Otherwise, why would he be with me! Now I do not spend more money, but also have to contribute to the household chores, why is he like this?
When you were a kid, Mom and Dad gave you limited love in a bad marriage;
When you grew up, did you commit yourself to an underprivileged man just to find some warmth?
From repressing to complaining, is this how you get love? At this rate, you'll only be as desperate as mom.
The only way to find happiness is to heal the wounds of your family of origin first and run a good relationship. 🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹
