I often feel inferior because of my rural background, I always feel like a bumpkin in public, and I feel depressed because I don't know what I'm talking about. My friends around me have better family conditions than me and know more than me, which makes me a bit uncomfortable.
Although self-esteem is relatively strong, but the feeling of inferiority can not be concealed.
A: Hello, dear friend ~ I am Tang Feng, the assistant teacher of Duoren Psychology.
Feeling like you're not as good as others and believing that you're a bumpkin isn't really just a feeling, it's a cognitive bias. You can change this by learning more and achieving success, but that sense of inferiority or lack of worth is real. Success may bring a temporary sense of worth, but it comes from outside and is unstable, and once you fail, the feeling of inferiority may come back to haunt you. This feeling can be your motivation to move forward, but you can't always rely on it. You need to cultivate an inner sense of worth so that you can remain calm and unaffected by outside influences and truly understand what you want to pursue.
It is easy for each of us to fall into the mindset that the only way to solve all our problems is to become stronger and more capable. We often set a standard of competence and think that once we reach it, we can handle everything with ease. But the reality is that we always have to deal with challenges within our limited capabilities.
It is true that there are a few people in the world who seem to be good at everything, but the vast majority of ordinary people do not need to be perfect. It is precisely because of our lack of ability that we need to integrate into the social family. Lack of ability brings frustration and undermines self-confidence, but it also helps us avoid doing unrealistic and stupid things. Only when we are grounded in reality and recognize our shortcomings will we have the desire and motivation to improve ourselves little by little.
I think self-regulation is also very critical, such as: ① learn to be aware of the present, stop excessive rumination, through positive energy knowledge to change the cognition; ② enhance psychological resilience, more enlightenment, blocking the negative emotions, and do things that make you happy to improve yourself; ③ build self-confidence, pay more attention to their own strengths, encouragement and rewards for themselves. I hope you can be true to your heart, find your own position, discover the unique flash point, so that the inner light naturally emanates.
