1. After my mother and my father divorced, she always said bad things about my father in front of us, which caused my brother to start hating my father, and now he basically doesn't communicate with my father and has become particularly rebellious.
2. she is still involved with a man who has a family, and he is also the "master" who brought her into the business.
3. she lied a lot and was clearly biased in favor of my sister.
4. and other similar things ......
Hello, owner, I'm Whale Social Worker Kissing Wind.
First of all, hug the owner, from your description I can see that you have accumulated a lot of negative emotions towards your mom right now, and your mind is probably struggling with what to do to adjust your mind. First of all, I think you're a pretty understanding kid who can realize these problems and seek help.
In fact, the main reason for the separation of parents is that there were problems in their relationship, and they may have divorced because of some unavoidable reasons, but it does not mean that they do not love you. Maybe your father once hurt your mother more, resulting in the divorce she still has resentment in her heart.
This kind of emotion makes her always say bad things about your father in front of your brother, but this is really not good. Because your brother is young and immature in his sense of right and wrong, this can easily make him hostile to his father in the long run.
As for what you mentioned about mom having dealings with other men, this is a private matter for adults and we should not have interfered too much. However, since you have noticed the seriousness of the problem, and you are not too young, you can try to remind your mom from the side. Adults usually love face, so it may not be appropriate to pick up the issue directly, and it may be better to do it politely.
And you say that your mom favors your sister, when in fact every child is a mother's heart. Sometimes it may be because you think your sister needs more care that mom pays a little more attention to her. You can think about it differently, maybe it's because you've grown up and become independent, while your sister is still young and needs more attention.
Good luck~ (Whale social worker)
