If I bring my emotions into counseling, I may immediately want to change counselors, or even become disillusioned with the psychology community. Because of my perfectionism, I have a hard time being truly satisfied with anyone, including myself, and I have a hard time being serious about things, and I can only find a little bit of authenticity in indifference and chicken soup for the soul.
Hello building owner.
From your description, I can see that you realize that you are a perfectionist and can't be happy with personnel, so you have to act like you don't care and find some comfort in chicken soup for the soul. I understand this feeling of helplessness very well.I noticed you said that if you bring in emotions when doing counseling, you will likely want to change counselors right away.
Counseling requires a cooperative alliance between you and the counselor to deal with distress. Based on your words, "If you bring in emotions, you may switch in a minute," my understanding is that when emotions come up in counseling and you are fearful or disappointed because you can't cope with them, you want to end the relationship.
Is it possible that you're looking for the perfect counselor, hoping that they'll read you perfectly, and then switching to someone else if they don't meet your expectations, paralyzing yourself with "whatever" and chicken soup?Changing counselors frequently is like extrapolating the problematic anxiety and placing all the responsibility for healing on someone else. If it doesn't work well, it's attributed to not finding the perfect helper.
The key is to realize that change is only possible if you take responsibility for yourself and the counselor is only an aid. When you are ready to face difficulties, a trusting relationship can only be established and emotions become an opportunity for growth instead.wish you all the best! (when signing off on a correspondence)
