I took a psychometric test before and then chose a counselor closest to my home and went to try it. I went for four counseling sessions and didn't feel any significant improvement, so maybe the time was indeed too short. But the state of the counselor made me just couldn't hold out, and I wondered if it was my own problem, like I was too sensitive or lacked common sense, but I didn't know how to talk to her about it, so I finally had to just not renew the appointment.
I was particularly disappointed by these details below and felt hopeless.
Hi, my friend, I'm Fuji the whale social worker.
First of all, I'll give you a warm hug, I can relate to your feelings of helplessness and loss. The fact that you took the initiative to go to a counselor for help, and that you can still summarize your feelings, shows that you have a strong self-awareness and a drive to grow, which is great!
Regarding your distress, I would like to emphasize one point first: during the counseling process, you have every right to express your feelings and opinions. For example, if you feel that the counselor didn't understand you, wasn't attentive enough, or that the counseling wasn't very effective, all of this can be fed back directly. Your feelings are important, and expressing them can help the counselor adjust his or her approach.
For example, if you feel that the counselor can't understand you, the attitude is perfunctory, or the counseling didn't help, or even the counselor's status is problematic, you can communicate with the counselor himself or the organization. Professional counselors will improve according to the feedback, if you think it's a little difficult to say directly, you can get help from the customer service of the organization. In addition, there is also a match between the counselor and the visitor, different styles of counselors are suitable for different people - some people like rational and analytical, some people prefer empathy and tenderness. You can think about which type you prefer and find the right match.
All the best to you (whale social worker 🐋)
