My boyfriend and I have been together for six years, and after recently coming into contact with his family, I feel more and more that we are not right for each other. I proposed to break up, but he asked me for tens of thousands of dollars to break up the fee, I agreed in a moment of weakness. Now I'm at his home to talk about this, he does not transfer money will not let me go, always pestering me, annoying as hell. I am a foreigner, a person here can not move, too disappointed in him, a few years of feelings, he did not respect me, I feel that he is a little psychological problems.
Hi, first a big hug from across the room! I'm so glad to see you share this, and I hope my advice gives you a little bit of strength. From your description, I can relate to your aggravation, anger, helplessness, and you really want to be understood and respected. It's normal to allow yourself to feel uncomfortable in the face of this attitude from your boyfriend. But the key is to remember, how he treats you is his decision, you can't control it, but how you treat yourself is in your hands. Breakups tell you the most about a person's character. Now, you need to ask yourself honestly: did you really feel loved in this six-year relationship? What was the underlying reason for the breakup? What did you do well in the relationship and what do you need to improve on? Both parties are responsible for the end of any relationship. What we can do is reflect on our part and grow through active learning. People are rational when it comes to making choices and will pick what is best for them. The fact that you were able to take the initiative to end the relationship shows that you have weighed the benefits of ending rather than continuing. As adults, we learn to take responsibility for our decisions. While it's hard right now, it's only temporary and you can get help from a trusted friend or family member, especially if you're clear about what you really want. I'm Lily Little Ears from the Answer Library, the world and I love you.
