My husband has been socializing especially often lately, always coming home late at night, and many of these occasions don't seem very necessary to me at all, but he insists on attending them anyway, often staying up until 3 or 4 in the morning before arriving home.
He returned late, I can not help but be angry, originally we see each other less time, a meeting for this argument. He said he is in the stage of entrepreneurship, must work hard, I can understand his hard work, but can not be all entertainment must go, right? I understand his hard work, but I can't go to all the social functions, right? As a result, when we argue, he thinks I am brushing off my presence. I also have a job, but also to take care of the children, I look forward to him to spend more time with us, and now make me a little bit of depression.
Hello, owner, this is Whale Social Worker Kissing Wind.
From your description, I can feel your helplessness and exhaustion, and it's true that you hate that your husband always goes to those seemingly meaningless social functions. But think of it another way, maybe he feels that these occasions are helpful to his career and that's why he goes all out.
Have you ever considered that his socializing has become more frequent, maybe not only because he is busy, but also because he always has to face arguments when he comes home? This makes him more tired instead, and without realizing it, he dreads coming back and spends less time with you guys.
If you want him to spend more time with you, you can try to communicate gently and ask him to take time to care for his family in between work. When he comes home after socializing, you give more consideration and care, such as preparing some hot tea or simple greetings, I believe he will be more and more willing to come back earlier.
Try to think about it differently: if you've been busy all day and you have to fight with your partner when you get home, wouldn't you not want to go home too? But if your other half always greets you warmly, you will definitely look forward to the moment of returning home.
Good luck~ (Whale Social Worker)
