My daughter is 17 years old and is in her first year of high school. She has a sensitive personality, and she previously repeated a year in her junior year, and worked hard through an out-of-school tutoring program, and eventually got into her desired key high school.
But in her second year of junior high school she experienced school bullying and was ostracized by her classmates, leaving a trauma in her heart.
After entering the new environment of the freshman year of high school, she always felt that her performance was not as good as her classmates, and experienced severe anxiety, with symptoms including inability to read textbook points and frequent dizziness and headaches, which had been going on for a year and a half.
Started taking antidepressants and sleep aids a year ago and it has subsided, but still can't go back to school.
He has been off from school since last September to study at home on his own, with no significant improvement to date.
My daughter is now debating whether to continue high school or go straight to vocational school.
She wants to go to senior high school, but she feels that she is not strong enough to resist pressure and is worried that she will break down in the college entrance examination; if she chooses to go to vocational high school, she is especially reluctant to do so. How can I help her?
Hi friend, I'm also a parent of a high school kid and I especially understand how you're feeling right now.
From my personal point of view, the physical and mental health of children is far more important than learning. Health is like the number "1", and learning is the "0" behind it. Without the "1" of health, it is meaningless to learn well.
Of course, as parents, we all know how stressful education is these days, and it's really smart of you to give your child a therapeutic break first when she's struggling.
However, after a year of taking medication the symptoms are relieved but you are still unable to return to school, which makes you and your daughter anxious. After all, the college entrance exam is approaching and studying at home is not as effective as at school.
My advice: get in shape first and do the best you can.
Don't be in a hurry to presuppose whether to attend vocational or high school, there is still time for your daughter to receive psychotherapy while taking her medication.
Psychotherapy improves the student's anxiety significantly and requires a counselor who specializes in adolescent counseling, systematic treatment, and adherence to medication.
You first adjust your own mindset, you relax, your daughter will also be affected, tell her that the college entrance examination is not the only way out, even if it does not work, there are many options for future efforts.
Then take your child out more often for a break, talk about something other than school, or let her develop hobbies to help relax the mind and promote recovery.
Focusing too much on the outcome of your studies makes it harder to concentrate instead, and believe me, it's much more efficient to get back into your studies when your mental state is in order.
I hope my answer helps.
