I often worry that I will be ignored or rejected by others, and I always find this particularly hurtful. Whenever this happens, I feel especially angry and resentful of that person, and even a little afraid to hang out with them anymore. What is the best thing to do about this?
Hi, buddy!
I can sense that this issue is bothering you quite a bit in your relationships. Did you just start being particularly sensitive to neglect and rejection after a particular event and get angry more easily than before?
If there is such a thing, you can try to think back to whether it was that incident that made you accumulate negative emotions but you didn't deal with it at that time, and as a result, it internalized into a knot in your heart. Or, is it that the atmosphere in your home has been cold since you were a child, and your mode of getting along is such that it has caused you to unknowingly learn that way as well.
Another possibility is that you carry a bit of hostility yourself when you're ignoring or rejecting someone, so when someone else does the same thing to you, you feel like they're doing it on purpose, and thus get angrier. In fact, it could be that you're self-protecting and projecting hostility. Try to look on the bright side: did he not hear you? Or is he afraid of bothering you so that he refuses? Thinking this way will ease your mind.
But if the other person really doesn't get along with you and treats you this way, then there's no need to hold on to a bad relationship; it's wise to let go in time.
