My best friend's husband and I share a common faith, so we occasionally chat about faith-related topics in a WeChat group, and we talk quite a bit, but it's all in front of my best friend's face in the group, and we've never met privately.
But lately some of my best friend's words and actions have been a little strange and confusing to me.
1: She once said in front of everyone in the group that it would be nice if her husband and I could be a family because her husband kind of resents her.
2: I planned a faith journey and she actually asked openly in the group again if she wanted her husband to go with me.
3: She also took a public screenshot of her chat with her husband, which said, "In the future, let you and so-and-so (me) go together to realize your common ideals, your three views and beliefs are so consistent, and when the time comes, you'll go and live the life you want and not have to think about us."
4: She often says publicly that her husband and I hit it off.
5: She also keeps saying that her husband admires me to no end.
What exactly do these words and actions mean? Is it something to do with her previous depression? What should I do?
To be honest, it does seem a bit strange that your BFF is saying these things with a bit of a sour note. It seems like she might be jealous that you and her husband are a good match in certain concepts, which doesn't sit well with her and creates worry and anxiety.
The relationship between you two was originally quite harmonious, so she may have said those words in a moment of emotion, and there is not much conflict between the two of you. You can consider adjusting your behavior appropriately, and if you feel that your best friend is a bit abnormal, perhaps you can find an opportunity to talk privately.
◆ Deciphering the meaning of these words and actions of a best friend who has had depression
◆ Does this information indicate that her depression isn't getting better?
◆ and my best friend's husband share the same faith in a group conversation about faith
Keywords: faith topics
Keywords: pitching relationship
Often, we need to do a better job of self-regulating ourselves and making ourselves more committed to our own behaviors and values; after all, we all have our own lives to run and move forward with.
Suggest taking the initiative to ask your best friend what's going on inside her head.
Focus: BFF's need better emotional stabilization
Focus: Both parties need proper accommodation and calmness
Perhaps because her best friend's husband has some behaviors that show dislike for her, she feels less comfortable inside, and she may have held some thoughts inside with no place to vent them, so she expressed them in a strange way.
This approach is like what we often call innuendo, where you can vaguely sense that diaphragm-inducing flavor, such as all sorts of overt provocations, or asking you something in a particularly strange tone of voice.
All of these behaviors may indicate that instead of thinking calmly, she is now filled with jealousy and anger, and sometimes this emotion is linked to the effects of depression, which we need to be aware of.
Her words and actions as if she is withdrawing from your relationship are really puzzling, it's better to keep communicating more these days and make your position and boundaries clear, friends need to have basic trust between them instead of being suspicious of each other.
If you can, it is recommended that you and your best friend have a good face-to-face talk to see if she has been depressed lately, and if there is anything in her heart that she has not said, which can also deepen the friendship and trust between you.
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