I found myself always putting my security in others, longing for care and warmth through them.
I admit to subscribing to this pattern of dependency.
I love to cling to people close to me and dread being alone.
I am not independent enough in life and tend to rely on others.
I have many great qualities in me.
I've been trying to be more mature.
Despite being 39 years old, I feel like an overgrown child.
I'm used to seeing everyone as important.
I like to please people.
I tend to get overly close even to strangers.
In life, I lacked self-confidence.
I also always meet the wrong people.
I don't know why, but I keep running into scumbags again and again.
I grew up with a lack of love and I can't lie.
In a short period of time, others can easily see through me.
Because I'm not good at lying and I don't know how to talk.
I don't know how to get along with people.
I have a hard time keeping a proper distance.
I have a kind but timid personality.
I get close to anyone very quickly.
I'm also prone to quick commitment in relationships.
I always get confused with men.
So nothing has been accomplished so far.
Because of the lack of intimacy, I was dependent.
I also have separation anxiety.
I grew up with a soft heart by nature.
It's not bad for anyone.
A serious problem has now arisen.
I've got an anxiety disorder.
Because when I was with the subject before.
He always leaves me out.
He never sleeps with his arm around me.
It makes me insecure.
When I sleep, I feel like I'm suspended in mid-air.
Feeling helpless.
He always does this to me.
Every single one I've gotten has played mind games with me.
I'm especially unsure about life right now.
Fear of being hurt.
Fear inside.
Hello sister, after reading your description, I think you are very real and cute and innocent like a little kid.
1. I would suggest that you start by reviewing your family of origin and upbringing to find the root cause of your lack of love. Pleasing and clinging may be childhood habits through which you crave love, and most of your current problems are related to this.
2. Poor encounters often stem from interaction patterns. You may be overly trusting of men, lack boundary setting, and tend to go all in at the beginning of love. Try to reflect on yourself: why do you always meet similar people? Observe the other person's flaws and don't be quick to trust.
3. Not lying is a good thing, and there is no need to force change. You don't need to learn to chat, but you can naturally talk if you have something in common.
4. With regard to being cuddled while sleeping, this varies from person to person. However, relying on external comfort is not a long-term solution, and learning to sleep independently is a better way to develop a sense of security.
5. Security can only be given by yourself. Dependence on others makes you subject to others and you are prone to anxiety when the other person fails to satisfy. Try to develop independence.
6. Ask yourself more often: Is it true that you cannot be independent, or that you do not want to be independent? What are the fears? Separation is the norm and anxiety is unnecessary. Getting a pet or taking up a hobby can help you heal and build a healthy personality.
If you are having trouble resolving the problem on your own, seek medical attention or consult a professional. Remember, there is always a solution to a problem, don't get stuck in your emotions. Good luck.
