I'm in a company where I'm younger with another girl, but the other male coworkers and male supervisors often make yellow jokes. For example, one time, I went to sort things on the grounds, and heard a small manager and another male colleague discussing a gift for Tanabata, saying something about giving a box of condoms, and joking that they could be used up in a day, and in general, just loving to say something particularly explicit.
I found it very disgusting and could barely tolerate it at first, but now it's full of that content and particularly revolting.
It feels like this has negatively impacted my mood and work.
In society, there are indeed many people who like to tell yellow passages. There are both individual psychological factors and social and cultural traditions behind this.
Yellow passages usually deal with sexual topics and are used to satisfy inner sexual curiosity or release stress through flirtation or ridicule.In traditional Chinese culture, sexual topics are often repressed and cannot be discussed openly, so telling yellow passages has become an obscure form of catharsis.
Many of the people who tell yellow passages are men because in the traditional view, men are sexually dominant and feel that making such jokes is no big deal and won't hurt them.
As a woman, you may be uncomfortable or even resentful of hearing this content in public because of the internal moral constraints that sexual topics should be private.
When hearing these jokes in public, it's easy to feel shame, or even disgust and revulsion as you feel it's directed at you and you feel disrespected.Telling yellow passages is indeed vulgar and can easily offend others, especially in inappropriate situations or in front of people you don't know well. Your revulsion is a normal reaction.
This is a good time to start by becoming aware of your emotions: are they simply uncomfortable, or are they triggering shame or bad memories?If you feel uncomfortable, leave the scene for a while and get away from the people who are telling the segment.
You can also try to stop it by saying, "Please don't joke about it," or by changing the subject in a lighthearted way and seeing how the other person reacts.If it's not convenient to talk, interrupt them by initiating a conversation about something else.
If the other person doesn't listen, you can only tolerate it for a while while adjusting your mindset: tell yourself it's not personal, you don't have to be ashamed, and just focus on what you're doing.If you work in a predominantly male environment, telling dirty jokes is part of the daily "culture" and may be a way for them to get closer.
If this culture is intolerable to you and you can't change it, you have to consider whether or not to stay on the job, in addition to avoiding it.I hope these suggestions help.Good luck.
