A few days ago, because I didn't get ahead of my boyfriend to do the dishes and hang out the laundry, he started to resent me for being lazy, and our interactions have become less frequent lately, with even hugs feeling sparse.
But actually, I do do my chores like washing dishes and drying clothes, it's not like I'm completely hands-off.
It may seem to him that he's taking on more of the housework and I feel like I'm paying for it too, it's just a bit of a blur in the division of labor.
Hi, dear reader, how are you?
I'd like to start by asking you a question: do you think not doing things like washing dishes or hanging laundry means a person is lazy?
Maybe when your boyfriend says "why are you so lazy", he has other psychological needs behind, such as wanting to get more care from you, or he has been working under pressure lately, in a bad mood, or even trying to get your attention in this way. Why don't you observe more of his daily behavior and see if there are any clues?
In addition, you can find an opportunity to communicate about the division of household chores, such as clear drying clothes and washing dishes by you, sweeping and mopping by him to do, so that the division of labor, can greatly reduce the small friction in the life of Oh!
