I am a college student living in a school dormitory. I personally pay more attention to privacy, in the dormitory when studying and turning the pages, always worried about the sound will be heard by roommates, the heart is particularly nervous, do not dare to study in a big way.
I like to do my own thing in private and don't love people asking questions all the time.
I've been thinking about going to study hall, but I'm really annoyed that I have to go there for half a day, and I'm afraid that my roommate will ask me what I've been doing. I hope teachers can give me some advice on what to do. Why am I like this?
Hello building owner:
College is supposed to be a place for us to continue learning, improve our professional skills, and master different learning methods.
There is no shame in studying in your dorm room, and there is no shame in taking the initiative to study without feeling guilty. Though some of your classmates may cast a surprised glance or even think you're faking it.
Also, you may feel like everyone is taking a break and there's no need for you to work harder, thinking that your love of learning is fake and out of place with those around you.
It feels like self-study is a disadvantage, and it's unbalanced when everyone else is having fun and you have to study hard.
It's important to note that roommates asking you about your daily schedule may be annoying to you, but their initial intention is to care about you, not necessarily to purposely pick a fight.
So, the owner should try to understand each other. As friends, getting to know each other and finding something in common can also foster a good friendship.
People who care about you will respect your choices and empathize with you. The owner doesn't need to intentionally please others, listen to your heart more and participate in helpful activities.
Sometimes I wonder why I'm still helping to solve problems when my roommates are asleep. Why do I force myself to do this when I could just ignore it?
I'm willing to put in the time and effort because it's something I love and enjoy. They should support me as I have supported them.
It is recommended that the owner make a study plan and show the schedule to your roommates so they naturally know where you are going.
If they don't care about you, it means they don't care about you and you probably aren't true friends. It's like your parents worrying when you go out. You may be annoyed with your parents, but you don't question their good intentions. They care about you enough to want to know your daily schedule.
You can try reading in bed and buy bed curtains to cover your private space. Or wear headphones to listen to English words.
Learning is your own responsibility. If you pay attention in class, you will spend less time reviewing after class. If you desert in class, you must work to make up for it.
Friendships are based on mutual respect and understanding. As long as it didn't interfere with their rest, there's no need to feel guilty.
Of course, the owner may also be looking for excuses to avoid studying. I hope you can learn to live independently and think independently in your four years of college, prepare for your exams seriously, and organize your life wisely.
Most of the value in life is not in the daily lessons because everyone is the same and there is little difference.
Rather, it lies in the private, individual life choices, the ability to plan your time wisely, play to your strengths, overcome your weaknesses, and find your rhythm.
Don't be afraid to be different; while it may be a disadvantage, it's also your unique strength.
