Recently, I always feel a lot of things in the heart of the pressure, not happy, do not know what to do, but also particularly easy to get angry. The heart is always restless, anxious to sleep well, obviously full of expectations for the future, but the reality is stuck, unable to change the status quo, want to change and do not know what to be afraid of, I even suspect that I am not a little depressed?
Thanks for the invitation! Hello my friend, I'm Aquaman.
I can especially empathize with you after reading the recent news you shared, as I've been in such a phase myself.
First of all, you mentioned that you are preoccupied and unassertive, but in fact, these two things are closely related. Heaviness of mind is often because you think too much, but action can not keep up, as a result, for some unfamiliar things, you will be easily entangled in the right and wrong, caught in the cycle of "think but do not do", naturally, it is difficult to make up your mind.
My advice is, don't care so much, try to do it first. Only when you really do it can you get the most direct feeling and experience, if you keep on just thinking about it, then it's useless to think about it any more.
Second, you describe yourself as moody and often anxious. This negative state is also related to overthinking, because whether you do something or not, the mind may mull it over and over again.
If you haven't done it, you're thinking: should I do it? How should I do it? What happens at each step? Will something go terribly wrong if I miss a step?
If you do it but fail, you might blame yourself: why did I screw up? Was I too useless? Will I dare to try again?
Even if I succeed, I may worry: if I succeed this time, others will expect more from me, and won't I lose face if I fail next time? What should I do?
All this activity in the brain affects mood and leads to anxiety, which is typically internalized, and the solution is to release it outward.
Here's where I suggest you find something to distract you, such as listening to music, exercising, talking to a friend, or going out for a walk, all of which can help you relax.
Thirdly, you mentioned that you aspire to the future but feel incapable of changing the status quo, and that you want to change but are afraid, so you are very distressed. This phenomenon is very common, everyone has a beautiful imagination for the future, hoping that life is as they wish, but the reality is often not so simple. No one can reach heaven in one step, our power is limited, but we can make progress step by step, and change will accumulate slowly.
So don't feel like you're completely out of luck if you don't reach your goals all at once. Give yourself more patience and start with small changes before you talk about big goals. It's no use just thinking about change in your head if you're always scared and unsure, we can't stay in our comfort zone, even a little bit of experimentation can lead to progress.
My advice here is to try doing something you haven't done before, like those things you're a little scared and afraid to touch but should do, and be brave enough to face them.
You suspect that you may be depressed, and this is something that needs to be determined professionally, and I would recommend that you talk to a psychologist or counselor in a timely manner for professional help.
Good luck and I hope these suggestions help!
