Do you often feel emotionally unmanageable and unclear about what you really want, even to the point that it interferes with your daily work?
Hey, buddy! A warm virtual hug to you first. I'm glad you've taken the initiative to share what's bothering you, and I hope my advice will bring you some support and inspiration. I'd like to give you kudos for already realizing your agitation and depression, which is the first step towards self-awareness.
I want you to know that emotions are not meant to be suppressed or controlled, but rather they need to be seen, accepted and responded to with intention. Especially when you learn to live with your emotions and slowly become aware of the real needs behind those uncomfortable feelings, the negative impact of emotions on you will lessen. Because emotions themselves are like messengers, they are reminding you to pay attention to your inner world. Once you understand the needs, you can be more proactive in satisfying yourself.
If you're not willing to explore your emotions in depth, it's hard to discover the hidden needs behind them, which makes it easy to react instinctively when confronted with them, potentially hurting the people and relationships around you, and that's certainly not what you want, right?
So often it is not the emotions themselves that make us suffer, but our resistance to them. In fact, emotions are not absolutely good or bad; they simply reflect our unseen and unmet needs.
The key to changing emotional reaction patterns, especially when it starts to interfere with normal life and work, is to learn to accept the emotion and try to respond to it. Because every uncomfortable emotion is teaching you how to love and take care of yourself better.
I'm Lily Little Ears from the Answer Museum, and remember, the world and I care about you.
