Just now, I didn't hold back for a moment and hit my child over a small matter, and now I feel especially regretful and uncomfortable.
Because of our children's schooling, my husband and I live apart, like cowboys and weavers.
I moved to a new city with my child, it was unfamiliar, I took care of my child full time and his father was only able to come home once a week.
My day is all about grocery shopping, cooking, and picking up and dropping off the kids, with little opportunity to chat and interact with others.
I have a vague feeling that I might have some mental problems, I tend to shed tears and think about things a lot, I kept telling myself to hold back before I beat the baby, but in the end I couldn't control it.
Please give me some advice from the teachers, thank you.
Suddenly coming to an unfamiliar place, there will indeed be a lot of uncomfortable, you have tried very hard to restrain emotions, but sometimes it is still inevitable to lose control.
That's why I personally suggest you try emotional management methods such as the ABC theory. In the ABC theory, A stands for the triggering event, B is your thoughts and beliefs, theCare emotional and behavioral outcomes.
Take now, Trigger A could be a small thing in your life that makes you emotionally unstable, and the result C is that you hit your child with your hands. This may be because you lack communication and are prone to rumination, so you have a habit of venting out with your actions whenever you are stressed.
Sometimes thinking about things in a different way can lead to new rewards. Don't trap yourself too much, especially at this stage of your child's schooling, and get out and about in new environments, you may be pleasantly surprised.
You have quite a bit of free time every day besides taking care of your child that you can put to good use. For example, follow your child around to prep his homework and guide him to find a learning style that works for him.
You can also do something you like, such as reading a book, or occasionally shopping to find out what's interesting in your city, and on weekends, you and your husband can take your children to the library or a museum to broaden their horizons.
You can also improve yourself properly and take up some hobbies. The life of a full-time mom is indeed a bit monotonous, so you need to find something to enrich yourself and adjust accordingly.
You can write down all the thoughts in your mind, sorting out what's a wild guess, what could happen and what won't. Prepare ahead of time for the likely scenarios, and just let go of the ones that won't happen.
For the matter of hitting your child, sincerely apologize to your child, explain that you didn't mean to do it, it's mom's fault for not controlling her emotions, and hope that he will forgive you and ask him to help you improve together in the future.
Next time you're in a bad mood, ask yourself why you're upset, if you're taking things too seriously, or if you're really having a hard time. Learn to talk to someone, don't shut yourself away in a small world.
I'm Fanny. The world and I love you.
