There is a sophomore in high school who has been doing quite well academically, but recently had a falling out with his family and even ran away from home, stating that he didn't want to go to school and yelling that he wanted to go into business.
This child is quick-tempered and stubborn, and especially hates it when parents are too strict.
How to persuade the family is not very effective, thought of taking him to see a psychological counseling, but I do not know if it is useful? Is there any other effective way? I hope experienced parents can share their suggestions.
Hello Parents, as a responder, I would like to share some thoughts. 🙂 .
Although I am not a parent, I understand very well the anxiety you are feeling right now. Your child is in the rebellious period, anorexia and want to start a business, it really makes people worry about the future. Don't worry, we can talk together and find a solution slowly.
It won't solve the problem completely, but I hope I've shared something that inspires you.
On the matter of your child's rebellious stage, it's actually normal for children of this age to be a bit rebellious. However, I can sense that you want your child to get through this phase as soon as possible, so consider counseling.
Before I discuss counseling, I want to talk about something else. You mentioned that your child is short-tempered and stubborn. Rebellious children are prone to mood swings, but is the child's quick temper caused by rebellion or is he or she born that way? I'm not quite sure, but I think if you force a stubborn child to go to counseling, it may backfire and make him more rebellious instead. So, instead of relying on counseling to solve the rebellion, we should patiently guide him to grow up healthily.
You also mentioned that your child hates too much discipline. While there is a rebellious disobedience mentality here, I would suggest that parents also reflect on their own parenting style. As the old saying goes, it never hurts to review yourself regularly. At the same time, the rebellious period is not only related to age, family education also has a great influence.
You want your child to get out of the rebellious period quickly, mainly because you are worried that he is bored with school and wants to start his own business because of the rebellion, and you think it will affect the future. If my analysis is correct, I suggest that you have a frank conversation with your child.
You mentioned that your child has excellent grades, and such children are often tired of hearing the big ideas. Why don't you exchange sincerity for sincerity by expressing your understanding and questions about your child's choices? For example, if he wants to start his own business, you can recognize his spirit of adventure, and at the same time talk about your concerns from a practical point of view. Your child is smart and surely knows that it's not easy to start a business, but he doesn't have enough social experience, so your experience can help him think rationally.
Rebellion is on the one hand a challenge to parents and on the other hand a sign of the child's desire for independence. We hope you will remain calm in your communication.
Getting out of the rebellious period is not an overnight thing, it takes time to slowly influence. I wish you a speedy solution to your problem and a happy life! ☺️
